Code gestures are an excellent idea - R usually doesn't need them - he's pretty perceptive and socially adept when in his own culture. That and I wasn't expecting to need them at a company new years party in a posh restaurant. I guess I should realize that no public place where alchohol is imbibed is beneign.

Both of us were uncomfortable and unsure how to handle an uncomfortable situation in a culturally acceptable fashion. We've talked about it and will keep talking about it. I'm definitely going to suggest code gestures.

Anyway, I just added you as a friend - I really appreciate your insight.