Yeah this is my point - I've seen a lot of frazzled students try to do the baby thing. Even a guy in my dept. is on a slower track that I thought he'd be because of having a baby. Of course trying to teach and be pregnant at the same time is probably going to be stressful, but at least things will be structured at that point. Prof. H told me when I mentioned I was getting married that I should absolutely WAIT to have kids until after grad school. I complete agree with her and we are waiting. I just don't want to have to wait forever.

I'm not sure we'll ever be able to afford a nanny, but a teenager once in a while will hopefully be feasible.