Social adeptness can easily be yanked out from under a person when the rules change (especially when one isn't yet sure what the new rules are).. and people tend to be on worse behaviour during holidays than any other time, as they can use "festivity" and "celebration" as convenient excuses. Yikes! It's really valuable and useful stuff to think about.. and a real life skill to be able to think & act on your feet!
It seems like, if you know that your friend or partner wants to get "rescued" from an uncomfortable social situation, one might be able to just sort of whisk them away for a toast or to taste some sort of food, or to dance.. especially in a place where people are doing that stuff anyway (if the Russian men have no problem coming up with reasons to whisk people away, perhaps it's considered part of being "friendly" & "social", and is just the thing to do). Many European cultures seem very into grabbing people to get their attention & pulling them to wherever they want them to be.. which is kind of abrupt & disconcerting when you're from someplace where people just don't normally do that sort of thing.
Thanks for your thoughtful & thought-provoking writing.. an interesting, intelligent (and often entertaining) perspective is a wonderful (and fairly rare) thing!
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Date: 2005-01-01 10:36 am (UTC)It seems like, if you know that your friend or partner wants to get "rescued" from an uncomfortable social situation, one might be able to just sort of whisk them away for a toast or to taste some sort of food, or to dance.. especially in a place where people are doing that stuff anyway (if the Russian men have no problem coming up with reasons to whisk people away, perhaps it's considered part of being "friendly" & "social", and is just the thing to do). Many European cultures seem very into grabbing people to get their attention & pulling them to wherever they want them to be.. which is kind of abrupt & disconcerting when you're from someplace where people just don't normally do that sort of thing.
Thanks for your thoughtful & thought-provoking writing.. an interesting, intelligent (and often entertaining) perspective is a wonderful (and fairly rare) thing!