And once again I'm culturally boggled. My perception of the West is that men are tightly controlled in how they behave (you can easily lose your job for pinging someone to see if they might be interested, as a male, and only as a male, you will get locked up if you take your clothes off in public, and the range of socially acceptable fashions is extremely constrained), while women are free to choose from both male and female stereotypes, can exploit sexual leverage in private, at school and at work without fear of sanction, and, in sum, can by and large do as they please, constrained only by the (actually rather small) chance of encountering a psychopath.
Now, this is certainly not to say that there are not many social games that are stacked against women. But the onus falling on women to keep men at bay? I can't make head or tail of that. The full weight of society is arrayed with you on this one. Everyone, men included, agrees that men are animals (which, by and large, we aren't). And women are, you will notice, just as likely to complain that a man doesn't make advances as that he does (though rather less likely to report him to authority for the former, of course).
Sorry if I sound grumpy, but it's a really huge issue from this side of the fence!
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Date: 2008-02-24 02:36 am (UTC)Now, this is certainly not to say that there are not many social games that are stacked against women. But the onus falling on women to keep men at bay? I can't make head or tail of that. The full weight of society is arrayed with you on this one. Everyone, men included, agrees that men are animals (which, by and large, we aren't). And women are, you will notice, just as likely to complain that a man doesn't make advances as that he does (though rather less likely to report him to authority for the former, of course).
Sorry if I sound grumpy, but it's a really huge issue from this side of the fence!