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Aug. 4th, 2004 07:12 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
I love my mother very much. In my adulthood we have learned to understand each other quite well and have grown into a supportive role for one another.
usually.
I knew it was going to be hard to tell my mother about the blood pressure and the no-hormonal-birth control for Merchimerch thing. She used the pill from the time she was married until she turned 40 and they wouldn't let her have it any more. I knew she wasn't going to like the idea of me not being on it. I didn't know she was going to make me feel like a teenager about it. At the end of the conversation she said "well you're an adult, I can't tell you what to do." And I'm thinking, not saying, "well you just did." She doesn't want me to risk pregnancy by using the symptothermal method. I, personally, do not want to risk a stroke by being on hormones. I reassured her that we would be using barrier methods for 3 months until I got the hang of my personal fertility cycle. She still doesn't buy it. The cell phone she was on kept cutting out, and the whole conversation just went from bad to worse. I don't think I am being stupid or irresponsible for wanted a natural birth control method. I also think that the small (though larger than with the pill) risk of pregnancy is not that big a deal at the moment. R and I would prefer to wait to have children. If a child sets itself up in my womb, as has been known to happen both to women on the pill and women using FAM, R and I will do our best to care for it. I'm so frustrated. I needed support - that's why I called my mother - I wanted to share this issue with her. I knew it was a risky idea, but I wasn't expecting such a harsh reaction from her. Please please please let me work on being more flexible and understanding. I don't ever want to make my grown children feel like this.
usually.
I knew it was going to be hard to tell my mother about the blood pressure and the no-hormonal-birth control for Merchimerch thing. She used the pill from the time she was married until she turned 40 and they wouldn't let her have it any more. I knew she wasn't going to like the idea of me not being on it. I didn't know she was going to make me feel like a teenager about it. At the end of the conversation she said "well you're an adult, I can't tell you what to do." And I'm thinking, not saying, "well you just did." She doesn't want me to risk pregnancy by using the symptothermal method. I, personally, do not want to risk a stroke by being on hormones. I reassured her that we would be using barrier methods for 3 months until I got the hang of my personal fertility cycle. She still doesn't buy it. The cell phone she was on kept cutting out, and the whole conversation just went from bad to worse. I don't think I am being stupid or irresponsible for wanted a natural birth control method. I also think that the small (though larger than with the pill) risk of pregnancy is not that big a deal at the moment. R and I would prefer to wait to have children. If a child sets itself up in my womb, as has been known to happen both to women on the pill and women using FAM, R and I will do our best to care for it. I'm so frustrated. I needed support - that's why I called my mother - I wanted to share this issue with her. I knew it was a risky idea, but I wasn't expecting such a harsh reaction from her. Please please please let me work on being more flexible and understanding. I don't ever want to make my grown children feel like this.
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Date: 2004-08-04 11:09 pm (UTC)As far as alternative methods of birth control go, it would probably really pay off to do a lot of research. The more informed you become, the better you will be able to balance the arrays of risks/payoffs.
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