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Apr. 14th, 2008 08:04 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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theferrett, you have summed up the problems with internet communication so concisely:
On the Internet, one thousand chats does not equal a single hug,
BUT
One argument equals one argument.
http://theferrett.livejournal.com/1085847.html?style=mine
I think this may reflect the general trend in humanity that negative interactions/communications bear more weight than positive ones, at least in our memories and emotions. Joy and comfort are fleeting and ephemeral, while anger, guilt, and depression weigh heavily for days (or longer). Somehow the internet, especially in terms of relating to others, exacerbates this tendency.
I've had LDRs that illustrate all to well my favorite two paragraphs from his post:
"An Internet argument, when done with people you care about, can be just as bad as a regular argument - except that it takes place in slow-motion, the air hanging and churning with drama between toxic emails. And if we were in the advertising business, the slogan "JUST LIKE A REGULAR FIGHT, BUT 300% LONGER!" is not something that would get the punters lining up at the shop.
That's why so many long-distance relationships collapse under their own weight. You're often lonely and sometimes jealous, making you in a less-than-ideal mood to deal with the usual bumps that come with any dating situation. And healthy relationships often need to have ugly, necessary debates where you learn to refine your communications with each other and become a stronger couple in the end. But a single argument, transmitted with psychodrama-perfect accuracy, completely overwhelms the novels' worth of tenderness and affection that have been relentlessly watered down by the distance. And you look at the other people around you, folks who can actually talk and hug and touch your arm, and wonder, 'Why am I doing this again?'"
theferrett, you have summed up the problems with internet communication so concisely:On the Internet, one thousand chats does not equal a single hug,
BUT
One argument equals one argument.
http://theferrett.livejournal.com/1085847.html?style=mine
I think this may reflect the general trend in humanity that negative interactions/communications bear more weight than positive ones, at least in our memories and emotions. Joy and comfort are fleeting and ephemeral, while anger, guilt, and depression weigh heavily for days (or longer). Somehow the internet, especially in terms of relating to others, exacerbates this tendency.
I've had LDRs that illustrate all to well my favorite two paragraphs from his post:
"An Internet argument, when done with people you care about, can be just as bad as a regular argument - except that it takes place in slow-motion, the air hanging and churning with drama between toxic emails. And if we were in the advertising business, the slogan "JUST LIKE A REGULAR FIGHT, BUT 300% LONGER!" is not something that would get the punters lining up at the shop.
That's why so many long-distance relationships collapse under their own weight. You're often lonely and sometimes jealous, making you in a less-than-ideal mood to deal with the usual bumps that come with any dating situation. And healthy relationships often need to have ugly, necessary debates where you learn to refine your communications with each other and become a stronger couple in the end. But a single argument, transmitted with psychodrama-perfect accuracy, completely overwhelms the novels' worth of tenderness and affection that have been relentlessly watered down by the distance. And you look at the other people around you, folks who can actually talk and hug and touch your arm, and wonder, 'Why am I doing this again?'"
